Bad Luck

Recently has been hearing a lot of bad stories from friends, and make me think if there was true love in this planet.

My friend, who was just married Aug'08, now planning to get divorced. The reason is because the husband has lower income than wife, and never give wife money, but always ask wife to pay this and that. Therefore, the wife can't stand for it, and decided to divorce.

Another case is one of our grouped friend, she had a very bad experience before with her ex-fiancee. Her ex-fiancee dumped her just before marry due to her ex-fiancee's mother not agreed. At that time, she had already prepared all the things to get marry. She was so pitiful to pass through this. However, this was not the end story for her, she then met the guys one worse than another one. She went to travel in Korea and knew a guy working as tour guide. She was having a long distance relationship with him until she found out she was pregnant. The guy asked her to discharge. I really didn't how she overcame this. Her luck continuously bad til she knew her current husband. She thought she found the Mr. Right to marry with. Unfortunately, her husband gave a very big surprise after she registered with him. Her husband told her that he owed the debt for about RM100k++, and hope that she would clear the debt together with him after married. Gosh, what kind of fade she has. After a few years, she eventually paid off all the debt, and now her husband tell her that he need some personal time, ask her not to disturb so much of him. She is pregnant now, and her husband still not helping her to do some household chores, just enjoy his personal time.

The 3rd story, my high school friend. She is one of the unlucky one either. She married in her younger age, and thought that could be lived happily with her ex-husband. Unfortunately, her life not as smooth as what she thought. Her ex-husband became lazier and lazier after married, ruined the family business, and expected her ex-wife to raise the whole family. She had no choice but had to raise the 2 kids. Therefore, she started to look for job. She gave a lot of efforts into her job and due to this reason, she did very well in her career. Her ex-husband started to find reasons that she ignored the family only cared about her career. Finally, they divorced. She then met a guy who was same high school as her. The guy kept on asking about her news every year in a old classmate gathering. Luckily, he found her, and she knew someone was missing about her all these years. She was very touched and finally accepted him. After they met, the guy only knew that she was married before with 2 kids. With the guy's family background, their relationship had to hide at the bottom of their heart. They had to pretend they were just good friend in front of other people. Some more, the guy had a deal with her that if they found someone they like, they could go ahead and start the relationship. There was one day, the guy told my friend his parents suspected their relationship, so she had to move out from their living place, and stopped the relationship. And this was the lie, the truth was the guy has another relationship. My pity friend just realized she had pregnant after broke up. The guy asked her to do the abortion.

The above stories were true tragedy. I'm so sad that my friends have to pass through these, and I can't give any help. The only help I can offer is listen to them. They really need a good listener.

Myself also passed through some bad experiences about love relationship, therefore I know friends are very important to be a good listener. And, I was really lucky, I got this kind of friends when I need them.

Although, there are many unlucky things happened everyday, especially related to love, I still have to believe in love. This is life, no matter good or bad, it's all fade. We can't control it, but we can do the best. I personally think that be faith to ourselves, be faith to people is very important.

I really hope that my friends that I mentioned above will have a better life now and after.